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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I guess I may be off base but it's how I feel. Like I said - holidays and birthdays are important to me. Will my daughter remember - no and am I planning to remind her about her grandparents not coming, no. But we will not have another time together (both families) again. It's sad they made that choice.[/quote]

You're not off-base to be upset.  You are entitled to your feelings.  Where you are off-base is making this a major issue when it's not.  There will be many milestones in your child's life.  Unfortunately not everyone can be there for every one of them.  The first birthday is the most important to you, the mother, but not as important to anyone else.  You feel disappointed because it was a big deal to you, and they did not rearrange their lives to make it to this.  But it isn't a big deal except to anyone but you.  I understand that you are hurt, but you have to let this go, accept that it was important to you, that your in-laws disappointed you, but that you are an adult and should be able to move on from this.

On another note, you say your in-laws chose to move on a Saturday.  But I can tell you from experience, that movers often charge more for Sunday moves than Saturday moves.  If they are downsizing due to poor finances in general (which you imply), then they may have made the financially prudent call to save some money on the move by not paying elevated Sunday rates.  Additionally, a Saturday move gives you Sunday to settle in, figure out if anything is missing or broken, anything in the new place need maintenance or repair, and have a list ready on Monday to address issues quickly.  Moving on Sunday means you often don't get to call companies/maintenance until Tuesday and sometimes have fewer options of when repairmen can come out to address your needs.  [/quote]

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