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[quote=Anonymous]OP, have you guys tried counseling? Life is too short to not be happy in your marriage, but when kids are in the mix it's worth trying to make it work if you can IMO. Don't stay if you're truly miserable, but don't just give up if you haven't tried to work on things. Maybe the threat of divorce would make your DH shape up?

My parents divorced when I was 9 - I never saw them fight and was completed blindsided when they told my sister and I. My dad sounds like your DH and was and is a great father. My dad moved immediately to a new house that he rented and eventually my parents had split custody. My parents work really hard to co-parent and keep things as normal for us as possible (despite my mom hating my dad as I later found out he had an affair and that's why they divorced). My dad remarried a year after the divorce and I hated my step mom. She was extremely competitive, controlling and just a horrible person and my dad was totally blinded by her and how badly she treated us.

I think the hardest thing growing up, besides hating my step mom, was the shared custody and going back and forth. We were with my mom Mon, Weds and every other weekend, and my dad on Tues, Thurs and every other weekend. My parents only lived 5 mins away from one another but I hated having to shuttle all my stuff back and forth and it felt like I lived out of a bag.

I would say once my parents both remarried (my mom did when I was 17 and my step dad is amazing) things settled down completely and got even better. Now as an adult, my mom and dad are actually friends and we always do holidays, celebrations, events altogether. My family is out of state so it is a bit competitive when we go home to make sure we spend enough alone time with each party as well.

Despite all of the above I would say my sister and I were completely well adjusted and turned out fine with no issues. But, we were not always happy growing up.[/quote]

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