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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband leaves all planning / organizing etc to me.  If I tell him specific instructions or tasks he will  usually do it, but he spends no effort thinking through what needs to be done for anything.  For example if we are going on a day trip he will ask me what he needs, it won't even occur to him we needed to set up someone to stop by and walk our dog, if we are going on vacation he will pack basic clothes but not look up what else might be useful etc.

It drives me nuts but hasn't been a huge deal, however with a baby on the way I don't want to be in charge of all things baby related when it comes to getting out the door.  Anyone successful in changing this dynamic ?[/quote]

Kid on the way is an EXCELLENT time for you both to sit down and talk about goals. and running the household.  Ideally with a counselor - tell DH it's about time mgmt, tell the counselor it's about roles, responsibilities, time mgmt, and communication.

He has to manage more of the household responsibilities, everything should not be one spouse's share of mind.

Ask him what he is most looking fw to teaching his kid at each age. Write it down.  Get him thinking.

Kids are the first time a couple must really depend on one another. You must be able to count on your partner, TO BE A PARTNER. 
Unless he grew up in a drastically different culture or his family of origin had GOod Ol Mom doing everything for her husband and sons (in which case get counseling yesterday), he should be able to "get it". Have him talk more to some married or father friends. He needs real expectations, he might have none right now and he will be blindsided and disappointing.  Does he have common sense?[/quote]

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