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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG. The level of selfishness here is astounding! They are coming to see you and your kids, her grand kids and nieces and nephews.  What is wrong with you? It doesn't sound like you get that much sleep anyway with young kids and a new born so try to use this and have them watch the kids while you rest.  I am seriously disillusioned by how selfish and nasty people are here.[/quote]

This.  I can see why people have so many in law issues on this board.  This is really no big deal and if DH is fine with it, you really don't have a leg to stand on.  Take this as an opportunity for some free babysitting.  If you aren't comfortable leaving the baby with them, leave DH in charge and head out for some you time![/quote]

Barring an emergency or an unusual situation, it's common courtesy to not change previously agreed upon plans at the last minute. It's rude, inconsiderate, and disrespectful of other people's time. This is true regardless of whoever you are visiting. What if OP made plans for Sat/Sun because she thought MIL/SIL were not staying thru the weekend? Should OP have to change her plans (which can include commitments to other people) because her in-laws decided to stay an extra two days?  Btw, MIL didn't ask her son and DIL if she and SIL could extend their stay- she just announced it on group text. 
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Then you tell them.  "I'm glad that you're staying until Sunday.  Just so you know, we have plans Saturday night that we have to attend, but you're welcome to stay.  I'll make brunch Sunday before you leave."  You don't have to change plans, but you just let them know when they change their plans that you have other plans and that they're on their own while that goes on.  That means that they are on their own while you're gone.  They're adults, they'll live.  Everyone will cope and life goes on.  [/quote]

Exactly. Unless you're looking for an excuse to create problems.[/quote]

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