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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thanks for the support.  I appreciate it.

Re: the other woman . . . I do feel in my gut that it isn't over with them, and that it probably never was.  How in the hell can I keep my sanity and my dignity when/if he tries to introduce my children to her?

[b]When do you try to teach your children about how hurtful and wrong all of this is?[/b]  OBVIOUSLY not now . . . but I don't want them growing up thinking their father's actions are ok, that marriage isn't a commitment, etc.

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You don't.  You don't do this.  They are little kids.  Don't burden them with your issues.

They will get older and ask questions and figure it out and come to their own conclusions.

Do not poison them against your DH.  It will come back to bite you on the ass, so look at it from self-interest.  And leaving that aside, it's just the wrong thing to do.[/quote]

+1 As a child of divorce, whose father cheated on my mother and is now married to the woman he had the affair with:

- kids will figure things out for themselves
- kids will arrive at their own judgements and conclusions, not necessarily the same ones you WANT them to arrive at
- kids know when they are being manipulated/used
- kids' respect for their parent has much more to do with the way each parent conducts themselves and treats the child than how someone else tells them to feel about their parent.

Trust me on this one: the parent who acts with self-respect and dignity will be admired, the one who doesn't won't be.  [/quote]

+1000000[/quote]

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