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[quote=Anonymous]I went through this as a child twice.  Parents separated when I was in first grade, reunited a year or so later and then divorced for good when I was in 9th (finally).  Agree you should focus on the logistics and impact on the kids - and you need to have all that figured out because what separation means will be very confusing so it is good to have a way to explain it.  E.g., separation means we think we'll be able to work better as parents if we live apart, but you'll be with daddy XYZ and me XYZ, holidays and birthdays, we'll XYZ.  You also need to have a simple but solid and concrete answer for the "why" questions that is understandable for the kids' ages and won't lead to more questions.  When I went through this in first grade, I vividly remember my dad talking about it matter of factly and my mom bawling.  That really stuck with me and made me very upset at the time.  The idea of what a separation was was beyond me, but I felt it was something very bad sense my mom was so upset.  That's the only time I can remember seeing my mom cry.  So everyone should try to keep it together if you can, it will make it easier for the kids.

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