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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would say no, not when it becomes a kind of demand.  Crucial to understanding consent is understanding that people's sexual urges may be different from yours- and if they don't want to have sex, you cannot try to coerce them into it.

I would say if you are in a relationship for the sole purpose of sex, or with that being a large part of it, then perhaps you need to rethink things. [/quote]

Ok so if you are in a long-term relationship and your partner decides they don't want to have sex do you just accept that or do you try to solve the underlying cause.

Would you consider asking them to go to therapy coercion? [/quote]

Is saying, "This isn't working for me; I don't know if I can stay in this relationship if sexual intimacy is not a part of it" considered coercion?[/quote]

If you mean it, no.  I would sooooooooo much much much rather see more posts on DCUM about people leaving someone because their sexual needs are that intense rather than trying to pressure (usually women) into having unwilling sex with them.  It's so fucking regressive and sick.  At least the other (lower libido) spouse has a chance of moving on to a healthy and understanding partner instead of being constantly pressured and having this messed up, traumatic sex life where they are essentially forced into sleeping with someone [/quote]

Agree this couple is sexually incompatible and should not be married. But the main problem is [b]this couple never should have been married in the first place[/b].
So instead of more DCUM posts advising normal/high libido (men) to leave the low libido spouse (women), I would rather see more posts instructing low libidos to STOP FAKING a normal sex drive in the beginning of a relationship. Find another low libido to marry.

It's so fucking regressive and sick. At least the other (higher libido) spouse has a chance of moving on to a healthy and understanding partner instead of being constantly rejected and having this messed up, traumatic non-existent sex life where they are essentially forced into chastity.

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