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Certainly no punishment but lots of hugs. Having that kind of unexpected reaction helps kids understand that what they did was very serious indeed.

I would scare her shitless about the dangers a young girl faces when alone, especially at night. I wouldn't mince my words.
 
PP is right - she should have a safe space to go to and constant access to a phone.

I also agree that transitions are really, really difficult. As someone with social anxiety, it would be very stressful to go from 0 friends to multiple friends, and the fact she just hosted a party might explain the whole thing. It's just too much and there is a reaction. A social life means reciprocity and being upbeat and social all the time, putting on a social face, etc. That must weigh on her terribly and she feels the need to escape from that.

Perhaps I would offer her a few "day outs" every year where she can wake up in the morning and decide NOT to go to school that day, NOT to do chores or classwork or anything but relax, alone or with you, doing stuff she likes. It would be the equivalent of a mental health day.

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