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[quote=Anonymous]I would not send a troubled kid to Wilderness therapy. Period. Injuries and death?  Rampant abuse and no oversight?  Staff from boot camps and correctional institutions?  No standards or long term studeies supporting this type of therapy? No licensing or regulation?  And given the lack of formal oversight, I especially would not send a young girl, who is a high risk of sexual abuse.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wilderness_therapy

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/08/when-wilderness-boot-camps-take-tough-love-too-far/375582/

40% of kids who graduate from these programs end up in long term residential care?  That's a terrible outcome. 
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wilderness_therapy

http://astartforteens.org/dangers-of-teen-wilderness-programs

https://consumer.healthday.com/encyclopedia/children-s-health-10/misc-kid-s-health-news-435/death-trip-648083.html

http://www.nbcnews.com/news/other/camps-troubled-kids-can-be-magnets-abuse-f8C11409077

I have a daughter with ADHD and anxiety who is 12. I would never in a million years do this. She works with a good psychiatrist, a good therapist for mindfulness and CBT, and we worked with the school to develop a 504 plan. You know-- safe, accepted mainstream therapy that Under parental supervision, that allows her to sleep in her own bed. She is also an A student.  She also has lots of friends and activities. She is even on a robotics team. Difference is?  When she is upset, she communicates with us, instead of running away.

I can only imagine that If I sent her away from home to an unlicensed facility with no formal oversight run by boot camp instructors, she, too, would have "abandonment" issues and start running away from home.  She would also (rightfully) hate me. Although she might be too afraid to say so, because she wouldn't want to be shipped away again.

Your poor child. Get your DD real help of the the medication and mainstream therapy variety.  The poor impulse control that leads a young teen to run away from home (and get herself kicked out of the house and sent to Wilderness therapy) is headed in a direct line to sex, drugs, self-harm, suicide attempts, and other forms of "acting out" that happen with kids who have impulse control issues. 
Frankly, your kid deserves a lot better that what you are giving her. No wonder she is so screwed up. [/quote]

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