Reply to Unhelpful MIL- whose job to tell her?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Unhelpful MIL- whose job to tell her?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, you sound awful, OP. Your MIL is not your servant or slave! She's helping, presumably to the best of her ability, and you're furious that she hadn't taken out the trash before you returned home? And that she's not making freezer meals 24/7 or paying for your takeout? What planet do you live on where this is a requirement for family?

I say this as someone who had a serious neurological condition that prevented me from driving for 3 months and severely incapacitated me in most other respects. So I fully understand a medical emergency. [b]But I somehow managed to work FT and care for 2 kids without ever expecting a relative to become my indentured servant.[/b] [/quote]

Look, if someone comes for the purpose of "helpling," it's reasonable to expect that they might actually help.

It sounds like you all got set up to fail, OP: If DH knew his mother really wouldn't be helpful beyond daycare drop off and pick up and could very well just sit around wanting to chat, well, then, why did he suggest she come at all?  Why is this an "after the fact" issue?

I would put this back on your DH to fix: 1) To remind his mother that you need to work during the day as much as possible and 2) To pick up the slack you'd hoped she would be helping with (or, worst case scenario, ask her to go home early because it's just not working).

And: Send them out of the house this weekend, DH and his mom with the kids, and maybe you can get some work done in peace while they're gone. DH can take everybody grocery shopping too (with the kids) and he and his mom can pick out some simple frozen foods that she feels comfortable preparing.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics