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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]WOW THIS WAS ME. I did my best to help out, DW is SAHM but with two young DCs at home didn't have time. I was up at night feeding them so she could sleep. first thing in the morning on Saturday I would wash the floors. I would take care of the baby before she woke up, many times making me late for work. She just never noticed, I would try to do more and if she didn't notice and there was still no intimacy I slowly stopped doing the extras and she would say "see I knew you only did it for sex"

It did change eventually[/quote]
For the 1000th time: choreplay does NOT equal sex !  
Of course, you do your fair share. But WTF with you doing all the night feedings? I assume you too have a day job?

If you want/need sex (like a normal person) then you clearly communicate your needs. Be precise (I would like sex ___ times per week). If she is unable/unwilling to meet your needs, ask her why you should care to meet her needs while she ignores yours? If this discussion does not work out to a place where both you and her are partners, equally committed to meeting one another's needs, let her know you consider the marriage to be an amicable roommate situation, not a romantic relationship. Then you STOP doing all the nice things that make her feel special and loved. Instead, you spend that time/energy doing what YOU want to do, without her. Go join a yoga class and have coffee with the ladies afterwards. Whatever you want to do. Treat her like a roommate, go out and have fun.

BTW, "help" feeding the baby is not one of HER needs... its BOTH of your needs... you can SPLIT this chore equally, during the times you aren't working your day job. But you DON'T scrub the floors expecting sex. Understand?[/quote]

These were her ideas because she would be tired and need help so she could rest and feel like having sex. Later she said she didn't want sex or see me naked, let alone even touch me. If I gave her a massage and happen to get aroused touching her she would get upset. Finally I did what you mentioned. I told her we are just room mates. Sex started to happen maybe once a month. After several years of that and numerous conversations, that always lead to arguments on her part, I told her I was done and leaving. She was furious think I would leave because of sex but the next day she decided to change.
For the other poster I have good genes I guess, 6 pack, low body fat, over 6 feet and have all the hair on my head and none on my back. Other women noticed me, when she saw one of my friends flirting with me at a party she became extremely upset[/quote]

Ah the old "I don't want you but no one else can have you" gambit.

DON'T have an affair. Then she gets to become St. Cheated-Upon and be exempt from any responsibility for her actions ever.

I'd get a PI and see if she's having an affair. [/quote]

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