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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for all the advice and perspectives.

To answer some questions...the college is in Boston. DD just met roommate in September and they became friends. Roommate is an international student and does not have a good relationship with parents. I never met the parents and have no way to contact them.

Roommate is still in mental hospital about 20 miles away. DD has been taking Uber to visit her nearly every day since she's been there (over ten days).

[b]No one at the school has offered support to DD. No one at school is visiting her roommate or taking care of anything. [/b]It has been up to my DD to visit, bring her things, etc. DD feels she has no choice since there are no family involved. DD does not want to ask anyone for help and says she doesn't have any time. I have already called the head of counseling services as well as residential services and have placed a call into the dean. I have plan to visit in a week, but in the meantime I am very concerned with how this is being handled and the fact that DD is pretty much taking over the role as the parent in this. I am also worried about what happens when roommate returns to school. From my observations, RAs don't seem to be very involved in much. DD says she barely knows her. This is very different from when I was an RA in college[/quote]

But who at the school actually knows about what's going on? DD says she doesn't have time to ask for help? That's silly. She has time, she just might not know what to do or who to call. Don't let her feelings of obligation turn her into a martyr at her own expense. This is a problem that is simply way bigger than she can handle. Yes, DD needs help, but she also needs to be a bit of a grown up and recognize she isn't in a position to continue this. She needs to say no.[/quote]

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