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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The way I see it, most of issues in regular, normal families(I am not talking insane people) between MIL and DIL come from insecurity of a younger DIL. While dating, she is the center of her future husband's attention, he is in pursuit, and it is all about her. And then wedding happens and you can't go on living like the world doesn't exist, like DH came out of nowhere and has no family and friends.  Every outing to his side might be perceived as a slight to his new DW and there is a lack of perspective and insecurity of these women's sides.  For a few first years in a marriage, women will get mad anytime her DH does something for somebody else, such as help him mom, friend, and not spend all his free time with them. You look forward to him giving you all his attention during the weekend and then MIL calls to say or ask for help.  Now, he has been helping her for decades by that point and this is nothing new for her, but DW freaks out and perceives this as abandonment and a competition.  It is a sign that he doesn't care for DW anymore. It is immature behavior and will disappear with time. And please, do not bash the MIL who answered, she presented her point of view, which is reality for her, and yet again DILs bashed her, but she is right, if she asked to see her son, DIL probably freaks out. I think men have somewhat healthier perspective on this, if DW says I am going to visit my parents, he usually says great, and find other  things to do. How many DHs do you know who complain of MILs taking too much of their wive's time? I don't know a single one. I am writing from experience, I was once that needy, spend every minute with me wife and then I matured and grew up, really grew up.[/quote]

Holy projection! I never saw this kind of thing from anyone "normal," as you call them. It's either a wife who is both selfish and pathologically insecure, or an insanely possessive and needy mother of a mama's boy trying to keep the umbilical cord nice and tight that cause these kinds of issues. [/quote]

I speak the truth. You know it, I know it, the whole world knows it. That is why we don't have any MILs posting here, I am not a MIL either. They are older and wiser. Where are these MILs? I know plenty of them who do know how to post and use the internet. The attitude that older women are dinosaurs and since they couldn't do you a favor and be extinct, you will do whatever it takes to discredit them.  Nothing new here, every new generation does the same thing, in order to show that they are grown up, bash on the older generation.  OMG, what a MIL witch, she got her son cheap deli meat![/quote]

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