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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I was in this situation. I was an African-American MD, had finished residency, was working in DC and finally ready to end the string of dead end relationships. I basically turned my love life into a job of sorts.

First, I got very, very clear on my needs. It wasn't a long list, but I distilled it down into five crucial things.  Second, I dated everybody. I went on dates with all sorts of dudes. White guys, Indian guys, black dudes, Latin guys, even the occasional gay guy (well that was once but we're friends now). I went out and had fun and tried to enjoy getting to meet different kinds of people. I threw out the notion of what I thought things should look like and began looking at the people sitting across from me as real people who I could enjoy their company. I also slept with guys way, way less than I had before. I drew a line and basically made it clear unless it was monogamous, sex wasn't happening. That sent a bunch of guys running, but I think it was the right thing because if that's all it took...whew.

Anyway, I eventually (after about a year and half of this) met a great guy who I dated for a year before getting engaged. He' a teacher and white and probably not what I initially envisioned for my life, but 10 years of marriage, two kids, and a lot of life later, I absolutely adore the guy.

So, like anything, it really depends on the person. Yes, I think dating was more difficult for me in some ways. But I think it's less about the ease of dating and more about getting to know people and getting out there and letting go of what you think you want and seeing what's out there. It could be even better. It was for me.[/quote]

Wow, I tip my virtual cap to you.  Great discipline, but that's no doubt how you also became a doctor.  Kudos on having your head screwed on so straight. 
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