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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If school isn't his thing how about trade school?[/quote]

Never understood people who say this. Lazy is lazy. A lazy unorganized unmotivated slacker isn't suddenly going to be an HVAC or plumbing wizard, are they?[/quote]

Some kids are unmotivated in school because they find it very difficult.  Trade school can be a relief for them and, yes, then they are successful.[/quote]

No kids that TRY and struggle in school, go off to trade school and do well.  A lazy kid on his cell phone or sleeping isn't going to excel anywhere if there are no consequences.

Parents give very little consequences to kids.  [/quote]

Some kids give up even trying because they think there is no point thanks to repeatedly getting the message that they are stupid (or losers) & ,eventually, internalizing it &/or realizing that they will never live up to some arbitrary &, for them, impossible standard set by their parents. Once these kids find something outside the typical world of academia that they not only like but are good at, however, it can do wonders for their self-worth & motivation. This happened to both my BIL & my cousin. Both slept through most of their high school classes (when they actually bothered to show up), rarely (if ever) did any homework, spent most of their waking hours watching tv or playing video games, etc. They were basically the epitome of lazy as teenagers. But once they discovered auto maintenance & repair (BIL) & hairdressing (cousin), they couldn't have worked harder. Both are very successful -- & happy-- today.[/quote]

Every hairdresser I've ever talked to is dumb as doornails and always has drama going on in their life. And I don't know any mechanics who grew up UMC.[/quote]

I said my ccousin was successful & happy, not the next Einstein. She's far from being a rocket scientist but she is smart enough to run her own (very successful) salon which, given that was her ultimate career goal, is as smart as she needs to be to live a happy life ( which doesn't appear to contain an excessive amount of drama --
though I'm unclear as to why that is relevant).

And what does whether or not most of his collegues grew up UMC have to do with my BIL being a successful auto mechanic who loves his job?

[b] Frankly, PP, you sound insufferable[/b].[/quote]

And like a whole different kind of loser...[/quote]

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