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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not just you, OP.  Many long term marrieds want to take a break from marriage.  It would be awesome to have passionate sex again, with someone new.  Security is good for your health but bad for your libido.

In a perfect world, we would all get a routine sabbatical from our marriages.[/quote]

People who say this always think they'll be the one who gets to go out and fuck strangers while their loser spouse stays home and masturbates. Then they get to come back after their "sabbatical" and their spouse has to take them back because they have no other option.

What will happen is they will find someone younger and hotter, and they won't take you back after your "sabbatical" because they discovered that they don't need you after all.[/quote]

Wow, you have a lot of anger.  Perhaps it's justified, I don't know your situation.

My wife and I have talked about the sabbatical.  The last thing either of us would want is the other home and miserable or alone.  We can love each other, and have each other's back and still admit it would be really hot to have sex with someone else.  It's not always personal.  We haven't done it because we recognize it's playing with fire.  Neither one of us would have trouble finding other partners, although I obviously recognize that its far easier for women to have NSA than men (although it sort of balances out because men aren't as picky about who they sleep with).[/quote]

Nothing angry about it. Just matter of fact. A "sabbatical" is always one person's idea. That is the person who thinks they are more attractive than their partner. Often enough their perception of their market value (and of the low market value of their partner) turns out not to be justified by reality.

But no doubt it would be different for you because reasons.[/quote]

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