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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe she can't, but you shouldn't interpret every comment she makes as a judgment against you.  So what?  She asked what costumes are you buying?  I would take it as a question not a judgment.

Just because something was an issue in the past does not mean it is the subtext for every conversation.

Just stop.  Don't let it bother you.  She raised kids in a different time.  It was a lot easier to live on one income then.  Comparing yourself to her and vice versa is apples to oranges.  [/quote]

Seriously, the OP is pathetic.

OP stop reading into every little comment.  Perhaps your mom is just recounting some of the nice things she did for you as a kid.

Tell her "Thank you.  Those costumes were great."[/quote]

how else is OP supposed to interpret: Just got off the phone with my mom who says - so what type of costumes will you be buying for the kids this year for Halloween? I have such memories of spending all of October sewing you and your siblings your costumes,[b] but I suppose your kids will never get these expressions of a mother's love given your important career[/b] That isn't a nice thing to say, and OP isn't misconstruing anything. [/quote]

Agree. It's not a nice thing to say at all. The result of repeated comments like this is the relationship drifts apart. Even if you still see each other often, you stop sharing things because you know the response will be judgmental. [/quote]

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