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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a gay man with a large circle of gay friends I am somewhat suspicious of men who claim to be bisexual because experience has told me that the majority (99%?) eventually turn out to be...well....gay and bisexuality was just a form of coming to terms with their homosexuality. There *are* men who seem to be successfully bisexual but if grindr or anecdotes are anything to go by most of them will continue to sleep with men after marriage or commitment with a woman. I'm currently single but when I navigate grindr/friends of friends for dates or one night stands, the "bisexual" men all admit to sleeping around on the sly and I immediately rule those out because I'm not getting involved with a cheating man no matter how good looking he may be. I do have ethical standards  :roll:

If someone was bicurious in college and had a few experiences but is more interested in women and wants to have a life with a woman, that person would keep his mouth shut and his bisexual history a private secret just like we (most of us) don't necessarily tell our spouses about all our sexual activities when young and horny. But if a man openly states he's bisexual on a date with a woman.... well, no, that is mostly not a good sign. If a woman came to me soliciting for advice on a prospective bisexual male partner, I would say, "don't do it." This is one of the few areas where it does not pay to be very open minded.

Some of you may not want to hear this but bisexuality seems to be easier and more frequent among women than among men. [/quote]

Bisexuality may be more frequent among women. But your sample size is also not representative. You probably aren't meeting a lot of bisexual men who end up in long term monogamous relationships with women on Grindr. And honestly, it isn't your place to police someone's identity. 
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He said that he sees men married or in relationships with women on there. I think that what he says is probably true. Women who are in relationships with bisexual men just don't want to admit it. [/quote]

What I'm saying is that he isn't going to ever run across the people who are monogamous. I'm bi. I have many bi friends. Some are polyamorous but that is it. Believe what you want. It is insulting to lump an entire category of people together. It is no different than saying all gay men have HIV.

This thread has devolved into biphobia though, not to mention it is months old so hopefully OP has sorted out what she wants to do by now. [/quote]

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