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[quote=Anonymous]We my husband and I got married, he knew I wanted to stay at home.  When the time came, he just couldn't handle the pressure that being the sole bread winner would entail.  Granted, he did not make nearly as much as your spouse, but we would have been able to swing it if he had supported the decision.  I ended up continuing to work.  And honestly, it really took a toll on our relationship.  I didn't change what I wanted.  He did. Had he been upfront with me from the beginning it would not have been an issue.  But the fact that we went into the marriage.. into having kids... under the assumption that I would be staying at home... it really hurt me and threw me for a loop to change that life plan.  I still feel like I missed out.

My point is... there might be some feelings that have to be processed.  You have been internally processing your shift.  He might need a moment to process his feelings on the subject. I am not sure which way he will fall.. he might be totally supportive.  But you have to understand that changing something that was a fundamental belief in the marriage will possibly cause some confusion and hurt if the other person was counting on that truth.[/quote]

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