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[quote=Anonymous]Wife not husband, but my husband had very mixed feelings when I raised the idea shortly after going back to work after our first was born, even though we'd talked about it as a possibility before getting married. His concern pretty much boiled down to not wanting to take a big lifestyle hit for it, which I suspect (but never voiced to him because it would have been needlessly antagonistic in the context of our discussions) was because he didn't really see there being much upside for him in that arrangement. I raised the idea as something I was considering and explained why I thought it would be a good idea, both my own emotional difficulty being away from our child and the difficulties I was having doing my job well and doing my share of the childcare (which I ended up doing more of due to things like nursing/pumping). When he resisted the idea, I said I wasn't going to pressure him on it, but asked that he just think about it before making up his mind. In the meantime, I made sure not to take on an unfair share of childcare/housework, I was very direct in asking him to take on his half of everything. It didn't take very long for him to realize how much work it was to juggle both his job and 50% of the homefront and decide he'd be happier overall with less income but more free time for everyone.[/quote]

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