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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Whoa - I see how your intentions might be alright but you are coming at this all wrong.

Here's how you do this well:

Neither of my parents went to college, but I was a bright kid with a lot of potential.  My aunt and uncle invited me to stay with them in the city over the summer, and basically exposed me to their awesome quality of life, made possible by their education.  They never said it outright, but they definitely talked about how much fun they had in college and how it set the stage for their success.

Then they privately talked to my parents, told them they thought I was a really good kid who had the ability to succeed in college, and offered to hire me as a babysitter and overpay me so that I could afford college prep classes and the like.

They never made my parents feel badly, and they talked to my parents before they ever made the offer to me.  Basically, the tone of the discussion was "We are incredibly lucky to be in a position to do this, and at some time in the past someone helped us, so we want to pay it forward." [/quote]
NP here.  OP, the key element in this post (that you didn't mention in your post) is the relationship between the aunt/uncle and the niece/nephew.  If the relationships come first, the solutions will present themselves (and nobody will be telling you to MYOB because what you're doing will make sense to them).  [/quote]

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