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Keep an eye on it. If you and yours sons and daughters have a good relationship it should be nurtured. If it starts collapsing it is a huge sign of domestic abuse.  I missed about 10 years of my folks because my exwife made it so unpleasant.  She's borderline. Her fathers comment when we split was how surprised he was that I stayed long.

Also, by nurturing that relationship, you will find the best friends. Both ways.

And no. I am not a momma's boy. You would call me an alpha who doesn't care. But as my folks go into their 80s, I like to see them a couple times a year. Just for a day.  I am simply repaying them for years of aggravation. 
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I love how one-sided this is.  Your ex made it unpleasant.  So you're blaming your ex for preventing you from seeing your parents? You're like my husband.  My MIL was so intrusive and negative that I cut her off.  I did not cut her off from the kids or my husband.  I had NO right to do that.  She was nasty to me and to my own mother, and the things she said to my mother while my father was dying were unforgivable.  My husband, however, cut off ties - sort of - as he never visits her or brings the kids around.

If the situation rears its ugly head (usually around the holidays), my husband blames me for HIS inability to drive in the car to visit his mother, for HIS lack of desire to bring the kids.  My youngest has no clue who she is, btw, b/c he was very young when I made the move to cut her out.  So that meant my husband refused to keep their ties, too.  I still don't know the reason why he's spineless.  I really don't.  But he is. And still get the blame for HIS issues.

It's never one-sided, genius.

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