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[quote=Anonymous]Sounds like most of the posters are women.

As a guy, here is my perspective.  You are only obligated to respond and give the level of friendship that you want.  However, many guys in similar situations will be open to and try to encourage the friendship to keep progressing forward.  I understand that you are interested in maintaining the status quo (same situation as a lot of guys) but he isn't.  Do not just ignore all texts completely and especially not the ones that express concern for you.  That sends the message that you are not interested in a developing relationship AND you are not interested in maintaining friendship at the current level and will likely create that awkward work situation you are trying to avoid.

So here is my suggestion on what to do.  Reply as often as you want to maintain the current friendship.  If you get a "Are you okay?" text, reply "I'm fine.  Just busy."  That's all.  If he presses you respond "I'm find.  I'll respond when I have time."  and leave it at that.  If you respond when you have the time, but not others, it sends the message that you are interested in being friends, just not closer friends.  You always respond when he escalates, because friends, even platonic ones, can get concerned for each other.  But you only respond enough to answer his concern and no more.   He isn't entitled to more than "I"m fine."  This sets the level and boundaries that you want but doesn't send the wrong suggestion that you want less friendship than you currently have. [/quote]

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