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[quote=Anonymous]OP here with another update.

The "good": Temporary stability. Cousin is staying with me at least through Monday with her mother's permission.

The bad: Everything else. My mom sent her sister, Aunt Cousin's Mom, an email last night. Not sure what it said. But she subsequently agreed to actually talk to her other sister, my aunt who's sort of local. Aunt Older Sister went over to talk to her this morning.

End result - cousin's mom said flat out that she doesn't want cousin coming home. At all. She'd rather not have a daughter than a gay daughter. She also Skyped her husband, cousin's father, and told him what's up/read him cousin's journal entries. He refuses to let cousin back in "his" house unless he first "knocks some sense into her like they used to have to for other bad behavior and she gives up this perversion". This conversation took place in front of our visiting aunt,  who thought it sounded like a threat to physically abuse my cousin.

So, unless things change substantially over the weekend, on Monday we're going to start figuring out legal options for an alternative guardianship/living situation for my cousin... likely with her parents' cooperation, as in they might voluntarily sign some sort of paperwork my mom knows about (she emailed details to Aunt Older Sister as something to consider) allowing someone else to have cousin live with them. Nobody is quite sure who would be best, but we have a few days to work on that.

The ugly: My cousin's parents both called her and left really ugly messages. With her permission I screened them, and told her I didn't think she wanted to hear them. She agreed but asked for the gist. I put it as gently as I could while still being honest. (I did NOT tell her her mother said she wished she hadn't worked so hard to save a pregnancy that just have her a [slur] for a daughter.)

No 15 year old should be saying "My mother never liked me and now she hates me. Dad's basically never around and is always angry anyway. They don't want me so why should I want to go home? I wish I could live with you or Aunt [my mother]."[/quote]

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