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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I get to be queen.[/b]
Not as much drama
I get more say in how thinks look.
Stronger snow shovelers
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Yeah, and then you get to be a MIL.  Watch that tendency.[/quote]

I think there is a BIG difference between MILs with only one son (plus daughters or as an only) and MILs who have all boys.

Everyone I know who has a husband with only brothers or mostly brothers thinks their MILs are not too bad to really great. I think those MILs are happy to have some female blood in the family, have been worn down by their sons to be really laid back and fun, and are ready to enjoy their DILs.

The women I know who have a husband with mostly sisters or who are onlies tend to have MILs who run the gammut between truly awful to meh.  I think in these cases, MILs and DILs get into competitions about who is more important in the son/husband's world.[/quote]

[b]These generalizations about MILs are so tiresome.  My MIL has three daughters and one son.  She is really, really wonderful and I've never felt competition with her or her daughters.[/b]

OP, I have two boys and am maybe considering a third.  We have three nieces and, from what we've seen so far, they are a LOT more difficult than the boys (all 8 cousins are between 2-6 yo).  [b]The boys tend to roll with the flow, are excited to explore and create, don't whine nearly as much, etc.  In general the girls are way more needy, are already excluding others, brag a lot and are way more emotionally draining for me.[/b]    We are considering having a third child and I'm REALLY hoping it's another boy.  I hope you come to peace with your situation.[/quote]
New poster here. Your "wonderful" relationship with your MIL might have more to do with her than you. There are abundant generalization about the MIL because it is often true. You will soon find out when your boys marry. As you say, "the boys tend to roll with the flow". Because of this, after they marry, they tend to follow their wives cue on social situation. This should not be surprising.  
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This is why I make a point to tell my sons that they'll need to continue to build and maintain a relationship with their father and me throughout their lives, if that's their choice.  It isn't their wives responsibility to do that for them or to get in the way of it.[/quote]

Keep an eye on it. If you and yours sons and daughters have a good relationship it should be nurtured. If it starts collapsing it is a huge sign of domestic abuse.  I missed about 10 years of my folks because my exwife made it so unpleasant.  She's borderline. Her fathers comment when we split was how surprised he was that I stayed long.

Also, by nurturing that relationship, you will find the best friends. Both ways.

And no. I am not a momma's boy. You would call me an alpha who doesn't care. But as my folks go into their 80s, I like to see them a couple times a year. Just for a day.  I am simply repaying them for years of aggravation.

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