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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We met  online.
I'm physically attracted to him and his personality from what I know is nice.
We're supposed to meeting up for pizza tomorrow night.
He now told me that he had something he wanted to tell me before we went out. Turns out he was in an accident a few years back that's caused him to need a wheelchair. He told me he would understand if I  wanted to cancel on him. He would understand if it's a dealbreaker it's been a deal breaker for other women.
He apologized for not telling me sooner.
My worry is I don't know if it's something I can handle. I've never dated a guy in a wheelchair before. I don't even know anybody in a wheelchair.
Maybe it's the fear of the unknown?
I don't want to cancel on him, and be  a jerk. I'm in my 30s and shouldn't be shallow.
I also hate the fact that I'm doubting myself now that I know about the wheelchair, because technically he's still the same guy I was attracted to before.
Would I be an asshole just to be honest with him?
I mean tell him I'm just not sure and it would be new to me.
I also wonder if this a tiny bit of a red flag because he wasn't up front with it. I mean I understand why he didn't, but at the same time waiting to tell me the night before our date is a little off putting.[/quote]

I would go. You won't know unless you try. It's one date. I don't think not telling you is a red flag. My best friend is in a wheelchair and I have seen how people treat her as a result. Telling people up front tends to lead to people assuming she is mentally incapable and writing her off without even talking to her, or getting a lot of fetish pervs.

He told you before your date. [/quote]

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