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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm going to disagree with previous posters.  The woman moved away to be near her sister.  They were not together.  Should have have moved to CA no questions asked?  Genuinely curious.[/quote] No, he need not have moved to CA.  He should have tried very hard to visit (seems like he has money, if the child support is true) and otherwise be in her life.  If the mom had tried to prevent, he should have gone to court to seek some visitation.  Instead, he was willing to passively let it all pass by. [/quote]

I agree with this in theory.  HOWEVER, I don't think we know all there is to the story.  It's possible the woman would have made it difficult and as a 21 year old, he didn't realize the long-term implications of fathering a child and now so much time has gone by that he rightfully doesn't know what he could have done or how to make the time up.  He told OP right away, seems to pay his share ... the "he's a horrible human who deserves loneliness forever!" isn't ringing true for me.

I'm surprised posters are being so harsh.  And I'm a mom of 2 young kids with a super-involved, "peer marriage" husband, so I don't make many excuses for men who don't pull weight.[/quote]

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