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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, my husband could have written the same thing.  After having two kids, the press of work, errands, childcare, etc. just took over our lives.  For him, sex was something relaxing and rejuvenating.  For me, it was another chore to add to the list.  What I didn't realize was that for him, sex = love.  He needed it in order to feel loved and appreciated.  I got my emotional needs met through all the things you mentioned - his participating in chores, childcare, hand-holding, etc.

Once I realized what it meant to him, it was motivation for me to change.  You CAN get your marriage back on track.[/quote]

NP - this is similar to me and what happened in our situation was that I knew DH wasn't happy with my lack of interest, but I didn't really know HOW unhappy he was until he really laid it out one day asking whether the problem was with him or what he could do.  I felt terrible and made a more conscious effort to work on figuring out how to get my libido back.  It hasn't always been easy but things are getting better, and hopefully as the kids get older and I'm feeling less exhausted and less touched-out at the end of the day it will continue to get better.  Maybe getting back to how we were as teenagers is unlikely, but we can hope   :-) [/quote]

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