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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. For those who require their kids to pick an activity, what are your requirements for what counts as an acceptable choice? Girl scouts only meets once a month at our school, so would you require something weekly? More often?

What if they genuinely do seem to hate the activity?

Throughout elementary school and the first year of junior high my 12 year old has tried 4 or 5 different sports, community theater, an art class, the school Lego robotics club, and an introductory music class. She hated all of them. Most recently we made her finish her spring intramural sport because she made a commitment to the team, which she obviously and dramatically resented. She doesn't mind girl scouts, although she's not enthusiastic by any means.

I'm not sure I see the value in continuing to force her to spend her tI'm doing things she doesn't want to be doing, that just become a struggle between us. I always promised myself I would not be the parent who cared more about my child's activities than my child herself did - i.e. that it'd be theirs to own. But where's the balance?  [/quote]

The reason I would make a child that hates everything keep going is because what about their future? I would worry that once in college they will uld drop out. What if they hate their first job, or never get a first job. I have worked jobs I didn't like because that is life. I think it's important to teach children that. The kids who hate everything I fear would continue to hate everything 20 years from now. [/quote]

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