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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm so sorry OP but I really wouldn't send her away to college like this. She won't be able to enjoy it and take advantage of all the opportunities college has to offer when she isn't healthy. She already seems fairly isolated and that could potentially get even worse sending her away from home for the first time. Freshman year is challenging for even healthy kids. I don't think any psychiatrist is going to recommend sending her to college in this state. [/quote]

Op Here - thank you for your response. Not sending her to college is a major issue. She is totally against the idea and if we force I am afraid she might leave home which would put her at the same risk of drugs and alcohol. In the college, at least there would be dorm-mate, RA and a college Eco-system. Yes, it is expensive and I am scared as hell to let her go in this condition, but I do not think in her case it would help to keep her at home against her will.[/quote]

PP here. 
I understand why its a very daunting idea to keep her home from college. Do you actually think she would leave home or is that an empty threat from her? (Legitimate question, not being snarky.) Are there any community colleges near your home? That would be a very good compromise in my mind. But, of course, you know your daughter best! In addition, while hopefully the roommate and the RA would be nice and helpful people there is no guarantee of that. They will be college students themselves and they cannot be "responsible" for your daughter. I know you're not actually thinking they would be, but they may feel like they are.

The experience I'm speaking from is that when I was in junior year of college one of my roommates ended up having a severe episode of depression and ended up in the local psych ward in our college town. It was so awful for everyone involved and I wouldn't want something like that to happen to your daughter. [/quote]

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