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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it sounds like there is strain in this marriage. I am appalled that people are recommending divorce.

Have you tried to get to the bottom of why he is lashing out at you? Does he feel neglected, disrespected? Are you SURE you're not doing anything selfish and oblivious?

My DH can get critical at times and try to micromanage me. It can be HIGHLY annoying. But we have been able to fix the situation.

First, you have to own up to what you may be doing that aggravates the situation. In my case, if I had been on a streak of being irresponsible or overly needy, this would make DH cranky and start laying into me more often.

Second, you have to have a plan for how to handle his bad behavior. I started leaving the room. So in your book example, just get up and leave the room if he gets grumpy because you didn't hear him. If he asks why you are leaving the room, just say "I don't want to be in a room with someone who speaks to me disrespectfully and doesn't give me the benefit of the doubt."

But I guess you probably won't take this advice because it sounds like you just want out. I think that's really too bad because fixing problems is really worth it and can bring two people closer than ever. That has been my experience anyway. [/quote]

You scare me.[/quote]

Care to elaborate? [/quote]

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