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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He can totally do it if you help. DH and I have moved ourselves before and hired movers. Both ways are a pain, take longer than you expect and cost more than you plan. Personally I prefer your DH's way. Moving slowly over a few days also gives you time to unpack/set up over there.[/quote]

This is what we did. 
DH rented a uhaul and we moved ourselves. DH asked 2 of his best friends to help him carry the big stuff. His friends were fine with that. They've been friends forever that's just what friends do. It helped we had beer and pizza for lunch.

We used a hand-cart a lot which helped move the large boxes faster too.[/quote]

+1. Never had movers. Of course, I (the female) didn't complain and pitched in and helped. I'm not above that. [/quote]

You guys are just like our former neighbors who claimed "we never hire movers" when what they meant was "we're going to ask all of you to waste a Saturday helping us move instead." None of the husbands wanted to say no but nobody wants to waste a weekend day helping adults move so they can save $350. If you can afford a new house, you can afford hourly movers. Pizza is not a prize. We can buy our own pizza for $15 and no hard labor.[/quote]

You don't sound like you have a whole lot of friends. [/quote]

I have plenty. I work too damn hard during the week to help cheapskates drag their shit around town because they don't want to pay for movers. I have other stuff I can be doing. You can pretend your friends are cool with pizza and beer for hard labor but if you're over 30, they're not, they're just doing it to be nice and because saying no is awkward.[/quote]

I have plenty of friends and money. I don't need to ask for help, but when I have a friend that needs to ask for help I am not insufferable like you are. You have acquaintances that will not be there for you when shit hits the fan. Very different than having friends.

If OP is moving from a $800K house to a $1.2M that is one thing. But if they need to save <$500 good friends would help. [/quote]

I know you want this to be true, but it isn't. And I'm happy to do things like bring a meal when you're sick or have a baby, show up for your mom's funeral, send you a nice letter when you're having a hard time, take your kid for a few hours when you're in a pinch, take you out for a drink when you had a shitty day and need to vent. I'm not a bad person because I think it's tacky to expect your busy friends and neighbors to help you move. Put it in your budget and pay for it. Would you ask your friends to come help you restain your deck or steam clean your couches or replace a toilet or give your house a deep clean in exchange for a beer and slice of pizza ? Probably not. [/quote]

I totally agree with you and I don't think you're a bad person. [/quote]

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