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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm just wondering how you expected the cousin to lie to your mom, not tell her where they are for a week, etc.

Maybe because I'm in an estranged family situation myself, but I'm not going to lie to one family member because someone else asks me to.

Obviously she should have told you (like I do), "no, I can't keep my vacation a secret. I talk to Aunt Jenni a lot, and we share a lot of pictures, I'm just not comfortable lying about my whereabouts for a week and having the kids lie too. I'm sorry"

If they are FB friends and have kids that talk too,  and hang out, it's really not likely without lying. I always ask in small talk "so are you going anywhere this summer?" Or "have you been to the beach", and from my perspective just wouldn't be able to lie like that.

I'm sorry OP, it sounds like you can't hang out with this group if it needs to be secret.
You have my empathy![/quote]

This is such bizarre response to me. OP has had to have her mom hauled off by police because of the threat she poses to OP's family, yet you think "lying" about OP's whereabouts is morally repugnant? I think protecting OP's family far outweighs the cousin's desire to share information with the dangerous mom.[/quote]

Unfortunately, this is just how many people behave who AREN'T the victims of the behavior of people like OPs mom.  They treat it as OPs problem/fault since "well I don't have problems with Larla's Mom, Larla must be the instigator."  The family members outside of the circle of abuse pressure the victim to "just let it go already" and make amends because, hey, that's what makes it easy for everyone else.  [/quote]

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