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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here - Yes, it is the kind thing to do but I'm not sure how to explain her or the relationship to my kids as they age. Her life reads like a sad country song and my family brings her joy. She had a baby as a teenager, several abusive marriages, addiction and rehab, mental hospital stays for a series of issues. She now lives off disability and [b]her main interests are astrology, smoking pot, and reality TV[/b]. Given that my husband didn't know of her existence through his childhood it feels like we were randomly assigned this woman a few states away to spend an annual holiday with and weekly phone call.

Fwiw we have a great relationship with my family and I've never had a problem making an effort to visit and care for my elderly grandparents, but these have been life long loving relationships.[/quote]

Oh shit. This sounds like me. Except that I have a nice life.

OP, you sound pompous. This is your kids grandmother. And your husband's mother. [b]If she was nasty, abusive, or a user, you'd have no obligation.[/b] But this is just a woman you think you're too good to be around. You're disgusting, frankly. [/quote]

Um, her kid was taken from her for neglect.  She didn't raise him.  This is a birth mother, not a mother in the typical sense.  She birthed him...and the kind of expectations you'd have for a birth mother are what are appropriate here.  Holidays, supporting her old age...none of those things is the OP or her DH's responsibility.[/quote]

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