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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's in the last year of his phd and I've been catching him look at assistant professor positions in the middle of no where. Think Ohio , Alabama , Georgia. We have talked about this so many times that it's exhausting. I won't have job opportunities in a small college town and I know I would be miserable. He seems to think if they offer him enough $$$ I will be willing to move. Job prospects for him ( statistician) are projected to be very good in this area. We have a 6 month old. I LOVE love love his daycare provider . She speaks to our baby in dh's home language and I am really happy with her. I also love my job here as well! [b]My husband isn't from the US originally. He hasn't  been to these states and I have a feeling he would be happier here. It's very important that my son grows up in a diverse environment . He's mixed ( Indian / white ).[/b] I'm not sure what I am asking here. I'm just so frustrated![/quote]

1. It appears that you are throwing up the false issue of race diversity but your real concern is YOUR job and what YOU want. It makes nice theater to make out like you are concerned about your "mixed" child growing up in a diverse environment (how can I be wrong if its about the children??).

2. Have you ever lived in these states? Your outward racial (anti-white) / class (anti- middle-class) bias is showing. You assume that "middle of nowhere" places like GA, Alabama, Ohio will be bad because they are not "diverse." I call B.S. college towns (i.e. Athens and Atlanta, et.c) always have a "diverse" community because it is full of (1) professors who are not from the U.S. (2) full of students who are not from the U.S.

3. I've never lived anywhere in the U.S. as segregated as NOVA!   VA is significantly white high income while MD is significantly Black lower income. I've lived in Georgia, Mississippi, Utah, Texas, Iowa, Virginia, Oregon, Washington state. Most recently I relocated to NOVA and I was floored by the clustering of similar races/income levels. This is especially the case given that the area is the bastion of democratic social values and higher education. I guess everyone here likes to look down on the reset of the country but they don't practice what the preach.[/quote]

Can confirm, SES and color really is segregated here. Yes, there are more international residents from more countries here than you will find in other places. But, college towns vary widely.

The Raleigh/Durham area in NC has a large southeast asian population and the largest Diwali festival on the east coast, for example. There are other areas that are really not diverse and would not be welcoming, just depends. It sounds like you and your husband need to talk and discuss the type of place you would like to move to. There is lots more diversity in places in Georgia and Alabama than people in DC would have you believe. On the other hand, there are lots of opportunities for statisticians in the DC area. We had to move here because my statistician DH could not get tenure in "flyover country", and one of my friends is also here for the same reason. We both intensely dislike living here, but our DH's could not find jobs anywhere else after tenure-denial. Like other posters have said, it's hard to get an academic job--and it's also hard to keep one these days. So take heart OP, your husband may have to live here (or in CA, where a lot of the stat jobs are) so you may end up where you want. [/quote]

+ 1 This was my EXACT situation OP.  My statistician dh could only find jobs here. We moved from one of those middle of no where states you mentioned. You will probably end up here anyway. Don't sweat it.

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