Reply to If your kids have a 10 years plus gap

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "If your kids have a 10 years plus gap"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I would be more concerned about the fact that they would have different dads.  If your older child doesn't have a good relationship with his father or doesn't see his father often, it might be hard to witness the younger child having his father present full-time or growing up with happily married parents.  I'm sure your fiance is a great, but a stepfather but it just isn't the same.  Your older child is entering the early teen years, a very sensitive time when kids think a lot about their relationships with their parents.  I'm not saying don't do it, it could be a great thing in the long run, but be prepared for some difficult feelings to come out.[/quote]

+1[/quote]

This happened to my college roommate. She felt like she wasn't a part of their new family. She was pregnant at 14, which was a year after the baby was born. Be very, very careful. Be very honest about your oldest child's personality, as well as their mental and emotional state.

Also as an anecdote, my cousin got married when her oldest son was 3-4. It was fine - he calls her 1st ex-husband Dad to this day and it is 20+ years later. She married again when he was a teenager and it was an epic disaster.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics