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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. Sorry to resurrect this from a month ago.
He has been truly great the past couple months and we are doing amazing.  We had a talk and we both agreed we want to be exclusive and are both very happy!  We talk a lot and see each other a lot. We're spending all weekend together (which we pretty much have since we started dating). He includes me in every little thing he does, he compliments me, is emotionally open with me, is affectionate and loving.  Everything I want. 
I am finding, though, that I'm driving myself crazy in my head for no reason.  Absolutely no reason. Like when he's texting I wonder who he's texting. When we're not together I finding myself wanting to wonder exactly what he's doing and when.  I wonder how often he actually talks to this ex/ friend. 
He has done nothing to arouse suspicion. He hasn't acted shady, hasn't disappeared via text, is super open (without my asking) about what he's doing.. Etc etc.

I understand I sound 'crazy' or jealous. I understand that this is leftover anxiety that I have. I haven't acted out on these feelings yet because I know this is all me and nothing that he's doing. I'm nervous because I know myself, and I know the only way to alleviate this anxiety is to talk to him and get reassurance... But again this is all me, not him, and most guys, actually women too, don't want to put up with someone needing repeated reassurance. It's needy, annoying, and can ruin the way they see you.

I think my initial assessment that I wasn't ready to date is maybe true. I know the right thing to do is to step back and maybe go to therapy or simply give myself more space to grow and learn to love/trust again. I just like him so much, he is an actual NICE person and I don't want to give that up.

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