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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And I suppose none of you give rewards for A's on a report card.  :roll:

Rewards can be motivating to kids, the problem you have is what parents may choose to reward. If done properly and judiciously they can be used to help break bad habits or create new ones. They can also backfire. But if you think the juice box at the end of the game or the ice cream waiting for them isn't a Pavlovian reward for participating on a day that they perhaps had to be dragged out of bed or away from their favorite cartoon to go and play than you are lying to yourself.[/quote]

But an A on a report card is, without question, the best thing you can do in a class.

Scoring a goal might not be the best thing for the team. Maybe someone else had a better shot. Or maybe the poor coach is watching a bunch of kids fight with each other to score goals while no one plays defense or moves the ball through midfield.

Want to promise a kid ice cream if he/she gives a good effort in a game -- or actually BEHAVES in a game? OK, fine. But don't save your rewards for the kids who hang out in front of the Pugg goal for a shot at big money.[/quote]

If you read what I said you would have known that you can change the goals to more developmental type goals. Things like doing a move, lest you believe that to be show boating, or successful passes or overlaps or crosses. Whatever the hell you think your kid needs to work on in a game.

For u littles it could be to look up and pass. But honestly, if we are talking about 6 or 7 years old, I hate to tell you but it isn't developmentally a team game. At that age it is all 'me and my ball" to the kids. They are not mature enough to play a team game and even see beyond themselves, so rewarding a kid for the outcome of a goal is actually age appropriate.

From 7-8/9 it is "me and my friend" then by age 10 the concept of team actually kicks in.

So the rewards should be for accomplishments that are developmentally appropriate. [/quote]

I didn't realize I was supposed to extrapolate all that from "what parents may choose to reward."

Sure, we don't see a lot of passing at U7, and we're generally not assigning real "positions." But you want kids to come back to their own half of the field on occasion if the ball happens to be there.

We coaches often give individualized goals, including specific moves. (Not showboating at all -- we want kids to try stuff, especially at this age!) [/quote]

Good grief, at 6 years old they should just be working on technical skills. Worrying about a kid getting back in their half of the field is nice but you have 8 ball hogs on the field at the same time. Just put them on the field and let them play. If the parents want to reward the kid for goals who cares. [/quote]

A teammate of my son's told his teammates openly that he was given $10 for every goal he scored. This was travel U9 a few years back. The boy did score some goals but developed into a selfish player that all the others knew would never pass the ball. Player never developed passing skills either. Shame as the kid had potential. My son moved clubs so lost track of $10 a goal boy.[/quote]

Shitty parenting = shitty kids[/quote]

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