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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All the people saying "I'd be happy with pretty much anyone as long as they don't have huge glaring flaws" must be interminably boring. Seriously, you need a one-in-a-million spark to make it worth spending your life with someone. If you don't feel that, then yeah, you settled.[/quote]

Some of us who had less than perfect childhoods are just looking for financial and emotional stability for our kids. Boring = good. My husband is my rock and takes care of us all amazingly well. We are his number 1 priority. My kids don't know how good they have it - they've never known life any other way. I don't need a spark - I need peace and stability and love, and that's what I have and am so grateful for.[/quote]

They also don't know what it is like to have a mother in love with their father. It's sad you are giving them this model of a relationship. Men as paycheck.[/quote]

A woman is happy with the guy she married, and she's grateful for what she has in life rather than being unhappy with not having some grander. And you find fault with her? [/quote]

She doesn't love her husband. She doesn't  love her kid's father.   She's happy with a paycheck ( stability)/ The kids pick up on that unhealthy  dynamic.  I  find fault with that.[/quote]

Wow, that is a seriously fucked up way to read that post.  Did you miss the part about emotional stability? About her DH being her rock?  Sounds to me like she and her DH have created a solid, stable family. Which, by the way, is exactly what kids need. Not excitement and uncertainty. And it makes her happy too. Nothing wrong with that.

This does at least demonstrate how important it is to find a spouse whose goals match your own. Want excitement and spark? Find a partner who does.  Want peace and stability? Find a partner who does.  There are plenty of people out there to choose from. [/quote]

Want a one-in-a-million spark? Come up with your own plan to make it happen and show us how it's done. I simply kept running with an opportunity that came along who was not a platonic ideal, and I highly recommend doing it that way.[/quote]

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