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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My goal is to be friendly-because we have kids and I think it benefits everyone if we can make amicable decisions and not ever have our kids witness any animosity. But if we are ever friends again it's going to be way down the road. Far too much hurt and breached trust to really be confidantes. My soon to be ex says he wants to be friends-but in my mind he's made it so clear that he doesn't enjoy my company that I don't see why we'd be friends. If we are such good friends-the we should have stayed married. [/quote]

Just my 2 cents...

Your husband is really mad at you. He only wants to remain friends because of the connection that used to be there; however, when he spends time with you now, the anger and betrayal take over anything he felt. Love and hate are really closely related. Both are very intense and all-encompassing emotions. When love is betrayed, it can transition to hate, but in the transition is often still confused with love.

[b]This is the important part![/b] You should consider how this all affects your children. If he cannot stand to be with you, spending time with him (even if he says he wants to spend time with you) will harm your children. They will sense the animosity. You need to be separate, but cordial. Maybe over the course of a few years you can build a new, *different* friendship.[/quote]

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