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[quote=Anonymous]Here's the thing.  Many of us who are larger have been shamed about our weight and appearance for years.  This can result in a situation where you are extremely sensitive about your weight and your body.  I currently avoiding being in photographs for this reason.  Even when I lose weight, I am really uncomfortable with people mentioning it because:
a.  the subtext is "You look so much better.  Geez, you used to be so fat and disgusting!"
b.  I am uncomfortable with anyone telling me something that implies that they are looking and have been looking at my body - because chances are, in the past they were not admiring it.
c.  Telling me that I look great, or I look better or that I am doing a good job with my weight loss is extremely condescending, and you are acting from a position of privilege as a thin person in rewarding me with a compliment -- which I didn't ask for, don't want, and don't acknowledge that you have the power to go around handing out.
d.  It's intrusive and inappropriate.  It crosses boundaries.  Just because I am in public doesn't give you the right to comment on my body.  I may very well have noticed your new boob job, but I"m not going to say "Hey, I think your new boobs look great.  Maybe now your husband will stop screwing around on you."[/quote]

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