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[quote=Anonymous]My sister is morbidly obese. She has always been heavy, but once she got out of high school she became obese and has never really made any effort to lose the weight. She is one of those obese people that DOES NOT get the health issues related to early onset obesity, so she is NOT pre diabetic, does NOT have high cholesterol, does NOT have high blood pressure, etc.  She has PCOS which the doctors told her meant she could only get pregnant via fertility treatments, but she has been able to easily get pregnant twice.  Basically, all the statistics about what happens to you if you become obese are NOT happening to her.  She works in the medical field in a hospital for the last 15 years, so she's around sick people and knows what can happen if you are in poor health and she is on her feet all day.

This has resulted in her thinking that she is somewhat immune to obsesity related issues.  She seems very happy with her life, she has a fantastic husband and two great kids, a nice house, good job, etc.  But it's like the rest of the family is waiting for the other shoe to drop.  Over decades I have tried approaching the subject with her, about exercise, cleaner eating, portion control, reducing sugar, etc., in a very non confrontational way.  If I lived closer to her, maybe we could do exercise classes together or cook more together, but she lives out of state.  I've recommended as interesting reads or movies things on good nutrition (like the Weight of the Nation, that Sugar Film, etc.) when she has asked me about them.  But she isn't going to change for me.  It looks like she won't change for her kids.  Something inside of her just must ignite and she has to want it.  I hate that she is over 300 pounds, that she can never find any clothes to buy, that people stare at her when we go places, that she can't keep up with her toddlers, that she eats such large portions and drinks too many sugary drinks, but there is nothing I can say or do that will make her change. Same for OPs brother.  Best thing is to be supportive and offer help if asked, otherwise it's their life.  I honestly feel it is going to take my sister having a major health scare to change her attitude about her weight.  But I keep that opinion to myself.  She's a great person regardless.[/quote]

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