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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here - I get really frustrated with the bias and judgment re behavioral issues on this board. Behavioral issues are often part and parcel of delays, and they are no worse than say not talking, they just are less societally acceptable. I'm not going to allow my kid to hurt anyone or put him in a situation where that can happen. But anytime I've sought help on this board I've been chastised, condemned and told that these are the most seriously bad issues there are. I have found that special needs parents are often the most likely to take every opportunity to find someone whose situation is "worse" than their own. It's very off putting and not helpful to anyone.[/quote]

NP here and I have to agree with this. I think everyone on this particular thread has been helpful but that hasn't been the case with different threads. Many times people chime in just to proclaim their child has NO behavioral issues and then to lecture whoever is posting about all the things they are doing wrong.
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NP and +1 to all of this.  I *mostly* find this board incredibly unhelpful, and everyone is always trying to bring you "down" to their level. Like, their kid has a crappy diagnosis so there is no possible way that someone else's diagnosis could vary from that. I remember last year posting about my son's ADHD and saying that the dev ped said there was no oppositional defiance (which I agreed with) and a bunch of people were like "sweetie, you think somehow your kid is magically having some kind of unheard of ADHD diagnosis without ODD?  You're delusional because everyone has it this way".  It's so outrageously unhelpful. I also hate the martyrism on this site that, if your kid has a special needs diagnosis (any diagnosis) and you aren't planning to sacrifice your entire life to its treatment, then you are a terrible, delusional parent.  Like, someone comes on asking about fine motor skill issues, and the responses are all about how the parent has to quit their job and plan for 30 hours a week of therapy and "it's a marathon, not a sprint".  And even worse when they get up in arms if you suggest that your kid's adhd was essentially resolved by merely visiting the regular pediatrician and getting the first set of recommended meds.  Like "what do you mean you didn't get a $5000 neuropsych exam? We don't care that the meds in fact resolved all of your child's problems, and they are now a happy academically successful child. You are a terrible parent for not determining what comorbid issues they have, and for not assuming your child will be burdened for the next 20 years".

In any event, OP, it was very clear to me that you had a dev ped diagnosis (I mean, why would you visit a dev ped if not for a diagnosis?? Use your brains people) and were doing ABA.  And you were just looking for insight as to what else may be going on.[/quote]

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