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[quote=Anonymous]My sister was in the 'wrong' relationship for years. She knew we (me, my parents and brother) thought this, even though we didn't say it in so many words. It was more general questions and probing. But none of us ever said 'you need to break up with him'. It was really hard but we all kind of realised we had to just stay quiet. It nearly damaged our relationships but we stayed on the right side of the line (my mum came closest and upset her once or twice, and I was very glad at that point to be the one she could come to).

Eventually she just one day admitted it to herself and broke up with him. Because we hadn't come right out against the relationship we were all able to be there for her and supported her without her having to feel we were thinking 'we told you so'. She met someone else a few years later and they are very happy and now have kids and we all think he's great.

My advice would be to stay out of it and just be there for her. She's unlikely to do anything until she realises herself he's not right for her. It may take time but she is likely to get there if he really isn't a good match long term.[/quote]

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