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Op here- [b]My mother has been physically and emotionally abusive since I was around 14. When I was 15, she hit me over and over[/b] with her hands and a hairdryer for not bringing my clothes upstairs. I ran out the door and to a neighbors house who was a friend and her dad took one look at me and called the cops. They came and took pics of the marks all over my body and then went and spoke to my mom and told her how that couldn't happen again. So no, I didn't deserve it and it's sickening for you to say that a 14 year old child deserves to be beat. [/quote]

NP here.

Please see your own statement in bold here, OP.

You have a boyfriend and a life in another state awaiting you, and it's good that you're getting away, and great that you're in therapy -- please find a new therapist as your top priority when you move, because you have a lot to sort through with a professional. Good for you for getting that help.

But meanwhile, OP,  your 15-year-old sibling does not have any such "outs" to anticipate. You are escaping (and rightly so). But your sibling is left there for at least another three years unless your dad grows a spine and leaves your mother, taking your sibling with him.

Please, PLEASE get your dad alone and talk to him with extreme urgency about leaving your mother and taking your sibling or else your sibling is basically set up for a life even shitter than the one your mom created for you. You say above that you were being beaten at 15 -- [i]the same age as your sibling is NOW[/i].

Your dad must intervene here and end the abuse by removing this teen from this home. It sounds like only you might be able to convince him of this. If he is, as you mentioned earlier, only staying with your mom because this sibling is still living at home - that is NO reason. Even the sibling wants out, you say that yourself. I know you are focused on getting out of there but please help your sibling by telling your dad that sibling said a divorce would have been welcome years ago.

Your sibling is probably already being beaten and is learning that mom is hell and dad is weak and won't help. You naturally have your own issues, and that's understandable, but please, before you flee, reach out to your dad and sibling to shake them up enough to leave your mom. If they do it and it burns all your bridges with your mom because she knows you urged them to leave her, so what? You and she have nothing to salvage together. But you could help salvage your sibling's mental health, maybe even his or her life.

Tell them you are willing to testify to the fact your mother beat you at that age and attacked you physically only recently, if that would help a lawyer to make their case. I know you didn't want to escalate things by calling the cops, but that might have helped establish with the police that your mom gets violent. That's done now, but meanwhile, please stop and consider making your sibling's escape the one good thing you can try to achieve out of this mess. You must get dad on board, though.

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