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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a SAHM to a 2 year old. It's hard. All day I'm. Cleaning up messes. But I enjoy staying home and my dh prefers it. I love my dh but he is always making messes. As soon as he comes home from work the messes begin. He leaves his shoes out, leaves lights on, leaves cabinet door opens, opens stuff out and leaves packaging on the floor, puts stuff in the freezer without closing the packaging. His job is to do the dishes but he constantly forgets to load all the fishes, doesn't pre-rinse them good enough for them to be clean, etc.

I know this seems small but it's driving me crazy. I have to be home all day, and for once I'd like to wake up in the morning to order before my toddler rips everything apart. Or not have to spend every moment of my life cleaning up after someone.[b] Is this something stupid to divorce over?[/b] I've talked dh about it a million times. [/quote]

Yes, it is.

FYI, I have always helped around the house and now do quite a lot including the outside maintenance. My ex was a SAHM for many years and went back into the workforce when the youngest was 10. I helped more once she went out of the home and even took over 100% when she went on several extended trips with a group, but I did try and give her a break some evenings as well as the opportunity to get out without the kids. So I do know what it's like, but in your case you have 1 child in their proverbial terrible twos. Not much of an onerous workload there imo.

Should he be less messy? Sure. Should you be less of a perfectionist? Sure. So I see a need for some give on both sides. But, a divorce? The fact you are even considering that says you have some significant issues beyond his messy nature. Maybe even depression and/or anxiety and perhaps even some envy. Do you really enjoy being a SAHM? And do you do a mother's day out during the week?[/quote]

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