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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If we had our choice and there were no bullies in the world, and if he really wouldn't be damaged emotionally the way they are warning he would be, we would not only keep him from moving on to 6th grade this year but would possibly put him back in 4th. He just doesn't get it and can't do 4th or 5th grade math or ELA yet. Tiny for his age, too.[/quote]

NP here. We held our delayed child back two years. He is 11 (turning 12 next month) and just finished fourth grade. It was the best decision in the world. He repeated his 3 year old pre-k year and then repeated the four year old pre-k year, which was absolutely the right thing for him. Academically, he is on par with most of his peers (though still gets a lot of sped support), and he is socially not so far behind most, whereas it would be a total joke if he were finishing sixth grade. DS is also tiny (followed by an endocrinologist, so very small) and given that, he would look really out of place (and would be at risk of even greater bullying) if he were that tiny and that delayed in sixth.

We have rehearsed and practiced the following line over and over, "I'm in the grade that's right for me."  If another child challenges (and they do at times) by saying "why aren't you in sixth grade," we have taught DS to say "why does it matter to you?" Which usually ends the conversation. :-)

DS has great self esteem, an absolutely incredible work ethic, and an extreme love of school - all of these, I think, come from feeling success in school and when peers. He would not have these I don't think if he had been pushed ahead of where he could handle developmentally. [/quote]
How delayed? Not trying to be snarky- but us global delay parents are in a different boat than parents of kids with a speech delay.
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what definition of global delay are you using? my kid has speech/pragmatic issues, a big fine motor delay, and social issues. Is he globally delayed? [/quote]

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