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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had a surprise pregnancy, though not years after being done.  Fertility treatments never worked so we adopted.  I found out I was pregnant shortly after, and although conventional wisdom said we should've been thrilled, I wasn't.  I was also upset and angry, and it took me quite a few months to recover. Fortunately, he's [b]the love of my life[/b] and looking back, I can't believe the fuss I put up and that I had wished him away.

Congratulations to you![/quote]

I hope you didn't mean it but this makes it sound like you've sent your adoptive child to sit at the back of the bus.

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PP here. I certainly didn't mean it the way you interpreted it. I love both of my children equally.  They are both the loves of my life and I am in wonder at how each arrived in this world.  My saying my unexpected and initially unwanted pregnancy became a such a joy to me was in no way a slam against my child who came to me via adoption and I am sorry if I didn't make that clear. [/quote]

NP.  Not to pile on the criticism to PP, but that is how I read the "love of my life" comment also.  Just a friendly reminder to be careful about language.  Adoptees I've known have all been very sensitive to this sort of thing.  [/quote]

I'm the adoptive parent here again. You probably won't believe me but I'm also a transracial adult adoptee. I get it, I truly do. I typed without thinking about how my comment could be mistrued.  All I meant was that I was so upset and angry over bring pregnant and now that he is here, I can't believe how upset I was.  If you knew me in real life, which my friends and family do, they can attest how in no way is my adoptive child sent to the back of the bus. One began my family and one completed it.  That is all I will say about my family, which is very much loved and cherished. Everyone. Not just one. [/quote]

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