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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Damn, y'all are harsh. I'm kind of in OP's situation and I not only do not have time to spend 3 hours at the salon every 8 weeks, but I also simply do not have the money to hire a babysitter to do that. I do makeup every day and it is HARD to make sure I do. I kind of have to because I hate my skin, but it makes our mornings very difficult for me to carve out 10 minutes for myself like that while DH is getting breakfast ready, putting away dishes, keeping baby safe, etc. As a result, I am always 10 minutes late to work and I haven't styled my hair in a year. It's also hard to motivate yourself to spend an entire weekend shopping to get some nice clothes when that will place a crazy burden on your spouse in terms of childcare, cleaning, food prep, shopping, etc. I try to shop online but end up returning 90% of things because I need to try them on and see them in person.

That said, OP, I do think if you can spend 3 minutes putting on blush and mascara that makes a big difference if you already have decent skin. Maybe find a way to do a "fancier" ponytail or something so you can style your hair in two minutes. I tried Stitch Fix and didn't really like it, but maybe it would work for you?[/quote]

I don't understand these kinds of posts AT ALL (unless you're a single mom with kids so young that you literally can't leave them on their own for 10 minutes).  I have two kids in elementary school and I work full time and I just would not ever leave the house without makeup on and my hair fixed.  It's built into my routine in the mornings.  Yes, I probably spend more time getting ready than some but I know how much time it takes and I build that in.  I have definitely streamlined now that I have kids but makeup and fixing my hair are simply not negotiable.

OP, agree with all the advice about hair.  I don't think anyone on earth would have decent hair if they let it air dry without any products.  If blow drying is too much, find a product that can help your hair look less frizzy when you air dry and get a decent cut.  As for makeup, try BB cream and blush and mascara.  I love L'oreal BB cream from the drugstore and it costs about $11.   [/quote]

Yo - PP - she referred to her child as a baby so, yes, I think she is unable to leave her kid alone for 10 minutes. Just take a step back and consider that not everyone has a home and life that look like yours. Do you have family who lives nearby who cares for your kids while you get a hair cut? Perhaps OP does not. Do you have reasonable work hours such that you have time in the morning for a routine? Perhaps OP does not. As a teacher who has to get my child to daycare across town by 7:30 so that I can teach a class at 8:00 I, for one, do not have this luxury. It's easy to say just wake up earlier but at some point it becomes inhumane. I blow dry/straighten my hair at night every few days and then shower with a shower cap in the mornings to speed things up. When my kid was under two I went to work with wet terrible looking hair for a long time. Thank heavens I was in a job where people didn't judge me too harshly. I'm also severely allergic to most makeup so have to go bare faced except for lipstick.

Let's provide a little grace for moms of really little kids to look less than 100% coiffed for a few years before life gets easier to manage. My kid is 3 now and although I can leave her alone for a few minutes she handles transitions very poorly and does not get ready without serious guidance.

OP I don't often feel beautiful like I once did either. But I am hoping we're building a world that won't demand my daughter wear mascara when she's a new mom. A good first step is not to slam each other for trifling things like make-up online, especially when the mom in question was already asking how to do it better. 
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