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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I actually don't find the specific acts to be that disturbing and explored similar things with other boys at that age, despite none of the kids involved having been abused (to the best of my knowledge).

What I do find worrying is that the other boy seemed very focused on it while your son was indicating discomfort. It doesn't sound like mutual curiosity.[/quote]

Alex stick his hands in Freddy's anus and you don't find that unusual? [/quote]

Correct. I don't think its unusual for young boys to be curious about bodies and to explore their own and their friends. They don't ascribe the same sexual significance to it as we do, because they are ignorant about their meaning. But they do keep it secret, because they pick up early on that there's something different about private parts that adults don't like to talk about. I can easily imagine two boys at a sleepover daring each other to stick their fingers up each others butts out of curiosity then nervously laughing about it and agreeing not to tell mom. In that scenario, I wouldn't have any concern.

What seems different here is that: (1) one boy seemed much more fixated on it than the other; (2) one boy seemed to have resisted and expressed displeasure and the other boy still pushed forward; (3) the affected boy apparently was concerned enough about it that he decided to tell his parent instead of either forgetting about it or keeping it secret.[/quote]

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